There is a line in A Course In Miracles that says “Infinite patience produces an immediate result”. This line has never left me since the day I read it. Do I always have infinite patience? Nope. But it does change my thinking on things that I am overly attached.

I remember the time when I wondered would I ever meet someone that I could have a real good relationship with, I mean no drama or heartbreak, no exhaustive problems or boredom. After a string of not-so-great relationships, it wasn’t easy to maintain high hopes all the time. There were good days as well as bad days. That was the time when I first read this sentence and thought to myself, let’s try and see if it really works. It has happened to me before when I stop looking for something, like a hairbrush or something like that, it will pop up unexpectedly almost right the way.

Also, I notice when I face a problem and decide to drop my “got to make it happen” mode, let go of force but go with the flow, or when I detach from the fixation of the form of my desired outcome, two things tend to happen. The problem resolves itself or I just don’t care anymore. So this again resonates with the infinite patience produce immediate result line of thinking. Perhaps the result is not always exactly what we envisioned, perhaps even better.

And that is precisely what happened to me.

Not long after I decided to adopt “infinite patience” as my attitude for all things, I had an interesting realization.

At that time I was very active in the Latin dance scene. By very active I mean 5-7 times a week taking classes, rehearsing for performances and social parties during the weekend. I “suddenly” realized there may be something going on between me and my dance partner, who is also my friend for over a year. I was completely unaware of his “existence” in that sense nor the attraction between us. And so I decided to simply ask him bluntly, in a way not dissimilar to when you say to someone “can you pass me the salt and pepper?”. His response? Let’s just say that I am very glad I’ve asked. Within a few years, we are married.

Retrospectively, he was there for quite some time but I was just unaware of how fate has already put us in the right environment, especially when I was not patient.

Over the years I can detest that this thinking works on things big and small, with pregnancy or the perfect shoes. The most important thing here isn’t about whether this is true or not, or if it will work for you or not. It is about whether you ready to let it be true and work for you now.

Try it and see what happens! Share with me your success stories, they always warm my heart.