Today we are going to talk about the implication your archetypes may have on your romance and long term relationships. This is part of my new podcast series “Becoming a Goddess”, in which I talk about Goddess, Archetype, Hero Journey, Feminine Power and how they all tie in and help you to gain a deeper understanding about yourself and decisions pattern you have. Two weeks ago on my podcast, I talked about goddess archetypes and how they may influence your career choices and motivation. You may like to check that if you are thinking about changing your career or trying to improve your current situation.
How our archetype may affect our romantic relationship?
Imagine you have the Goddess Athena as an archetype, the ultimate strategist, most likely a successful businesswoman or someone who is highly accomplished in your career or study of choice. You aren’t likely to find yourself attracted to someone who doesn’t have a care in the world, uninspired or just living life through motion, right?
Or as an Artemis incarnate, think of someone who is passionate about protecting our environment, bringing justice to our society, rescuing animals in nature or helping women or children in poverty. A woman who works for the right cause and vision. Do you think you will fancy someone who is putting corporate profit first or being lightweight on moral and social justice? No way, right?
I think you can see where I am going with this. Your archetypes affect your personal interests, behavioural patterns, intellectual and emotional responses as well as decision making.
What is an archetype?
In a nutshell, archetypes are our inner patterns, they reflect our unconscious choices, inclination, interests and personalities. If we understand our own archetypal influences, we can understand how we related to others and the decisions we make. By discovering our archetypes, it helps us to better understand ourselves. I wrote about the six Greek Goddess Archetypes extensively in my first book Goddess with Many Faces and today I want to focus on how they affect our relationships.
Just to mention the reason I use Goddess Archetypes is that I love the Goddess myths, they reflect the complexity of women and yet we can understand, relate and resonate with them. Many people use other archetypes, some use the Tarot system, some focus on a few women at different stages of life. I like Goddess and I found them highly relatable when I use them to explain to my coaching clients.
Anyway, the key is this – you are born with certain goddess archetypes that are dominant in your psyche, however, it may change due to your circumstances or personal growth. So, basically both nature and nurture play a part.
Now, going back to your relationship pattern, how is it helpful for us in terms of choosing our partners or creating a relationship?
Understand Your Relationship Pattern
First of all, knowing our inner patterns makes a huge difference in terms of understanding what we need to be mindful of or why we tend to fall into certain patterns.
Go back to Athena’s example, she is strong-minded, a highly intellectual person, and often in a sense, disconnected from her emotional and physical body. So for an Athena entering a new stage in life where she is looking for personal growth, she may find herself in a new relationship with someone who has the capacity to support her to tune in with her inner wisdom or to encourage her to slow down in life. She may never think that will be a man or woman she would like to enter a relationship with, but she may not be aware she is also changing herself so that is in fact really helpful for her.
Would she likely to push him away or find it hard to comprehend the attraction at the beginning? Most likely, because he is different or even uncomfortable for her.
Considerations for a Long Term Relationship
Now think about the archetype of Demeter, the mother and nurturer. Since you are naturally warm and love to care for others, you have a tendency to over-give yourself, end up exhausted and maybe even burnt out. You may find yourself repeating the pattern of rescuing someone, caring for their wounds and ended up feeling wounded yourself as you may be taken for granted or never really have your needs met. You have so much to give, yet you may feel empty at the end of the day. You may also be getting yourself into a co-dependent relationship without meaning to do so.
By recognising that, you may start to speak up for yourself, set clearer boundaries and beginning nurturing for yourself. When your cup is empty, it is really hard to give even if you want to.
Great Romance and Personal Growth
Another really interesting archetype to consider is Aphrodite, the goddess of love and beauty. As a goddess archetype, she represents the transformer.
Many people only see one part of her, meaning, people find her very attractive, magnetic and easy to fall in love with her. And yes, she may be physically beautiful, but what is underneath that is her ability to see the best in people, really curious and interested in what you have to say, who you are, she is very present and make you feel seen and heard.
If you have this archetype active in you, you often find yourself in a relationship or never short of people who want to be with you. You may find yourself to fall in love with someone easily, but also falling out of love.
When you are with someone, it is a transformative experience, you both grow and learn about life and about love. But it then comes to a point where you may suddenly feel the magic is gone. You may not be able to stay for the long run to explore deeper qualities and lesson with the same person.
Also, it can be exhausting to have many intense relationships one after another. So for an Aphrodite to mature, you may need extra introspection about what you want in your life not just for the moment but for a longer-term. Therefore, having clear boundaries and setting the right expectation for the other person will be important so that you may not hurt someone’s feelings or sending the wrong messages without meaning to do so.
This is only a snapshot about how we can look at our Goddess Archetypes to reflect on who we are, our tendencies and perhaps effects on others.
Knowing ourselves is the first step in creating a relationship or attracting a partner that is right for us, and right for them. So it may worth your while to put some time to get to know your archetypes and think about your past relationships, any patterns or recurring theme that you may be able to identify and learn from.
What Goddess Archetypes Are You Online Quiz
If you are curious to find out more about your Goddess Archetypes, you can try my FREE What Goddess Archetypes Are You Online Quiz to learn more about your goddess profile. It takes about 15 minutes to complete. You will also receive additional bonus materials too! It’s part of my free resources offering. I hope you will find them useful!
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