In this podcast episode, I will share with you why it’s never too late to change or dream of having a better relationship, career or health!
A Frequently Asked Question On Self-Development
Recently I ran a “Becoming A Goddess” seminar at the Mind Body Spirit Festival and I talked to some attendees after my talk. For me, becoming a modern-day goddess is about embracing a more wholehearted way of living. That means focus on personal growth and self-development. What are the things really matter to our heart? What is stirring us internal and we long to change? What is stopping us from dreaming big and challenging us to want to have more in life?
After some contemplation, there seems to be a common question around “Is it too late for me to …?” scenario, and I want to share some coaching tips and tools about this topic. As I have seen first hand how some people can change their life around or start over or creating a bigger and better life after they reach middle age and beyond.
The short answer to this question is simply:
OF COURSE NOT
As long as you are willing to change, you have the desire and believe you deserve better, you show up and follow up with inspired action. I would NOT, it is not too late.
The reason I am saying that is that I know first hand so many people who have found love and new relationships, successful businesses, new hobbies, better health as they start to look after their internal and external being. They also found more joy and peace when they are not getting YOUNGER per se.
Louise Hay, who founded Hay House when she was over 60. She then became really keen to Latin dance in her 70s. I know many personal friends who found their partners or husbands well into their 60s.
There are so many examples around us if we just care to look.
So the question is actually, why don’t do we look at those examples? What are we only drawn to negative thoughts or doubts?
It is because we are often tripped by our fear. We the loudest and most persistent critic for ourselves.
Don’t let your fear to stop your personal growth
Fear of getting too old, it’s too late or feeling you are too tall, too short, too skinny, too fat … etc. There are just the most common heard negative talks that we feed into our minds.
If you keep telling yourself all that is not possible or probable, your mind keeps searching for evidence to support that claim.
Also, we have a natural tendency towards negative bias, it is related to our evolution and survival instinct. We need to be well aware of the danger around us when we were agricultural or hunting tribes. But this is no longer the case, yet our brain is still hard-wired to negative bias and prevents us to dare greatly when we feel uncomfortable or push outside of our comfort soon.
I often say, the distance between our head and heart is a short one, but it may take a lifetime for some people. If we feel from our heart that we want to do change or do something new, we need to convince our brain that it is ok to do that.
To make a positive change in life or in some cases, start a new business, career or relationship can be overwhelming, but it is important to remember you don’t always have to jump ship and take a gigantic leap. The most important step is the first one, and that can just be tipping your toes into the water, learning a little bit more about what you want or need. It can also be a refining your direction, improving something you are already doing or looking at slightly different angle. Even if it is going to be an epic change, the key is to know if you can “think” it, you have something in you that can lead you there, you will identify the gap or what is needed, and step by step you will move to where you want to be.
It’s never too late if you …
So here are ideas for your next steps
1.) Surround yourself with open-minded and like-minded people who are supporting your ideas to make a positive move in your life. There is a saying that you should not go to the hardware store to get milk. Sometimes when you are ideas are still new and you are still figuring out the next steps, it’s best to share them with people who you know will understand and support you and if possible, someone who is knowledgeable about the subject matter.
2.) Educate yourself and get more informed. When you know more, you feel more confident in pursuing what you are thinking about, you will also become more aware of your next steps. No one is born with a full set of knowledge or skill about anything, but through time, we can improve on just about anything. Aim to learn just one thing at a time, don’t overwhelm yourself and trip over how much one can learn or need to master the topic. Focus on progress, not perfection.
3.) Trust your gut. We need to give our intuition and inner wisdom more credit. When you have an inspiration, write it down, think about a tiny action you can take to further that thought. Look it up online. Ask a friend. Actions build momentum and you can find more clarity about your idea when you put more energy into it. Don’t overthink it. Just try to think of 1 follow up action you can do within a 5-10 minutes window, just investigate that!
Henry Ford famously said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right”. So what we think and believe plays vital importance to our performance and outcome. Make a wise choice!
To wrap this all up, get really clear about what is that you want to change or start over, then block out the noise of all the negative self-talk and start taking actions no matter how small to begin with.
One thing you may find super helpful is to get a coach to work with you. The reason I became a coach myself is that I know first hand how it can create a long term impact of one’s life and why this is such a fast-growing profession. It is rewarding and transformative for the coach as well as coachee!
Exploration Coaching Session
You can schedule a FREE 30 minutes Exploration Coaching Session with me if you would like to get started on making the change you long for, or start a new chapter in life. Here is the thing, with personalised coaching, you will gain a new level of awareness about yourself, discover strength, opportunities or deepest desires you have never known/seen within yourself before. You will have a shift in your new mindset and cultivate good habits to better your life. Achieving your goals or solve a problem is actually just a by-product more than the only reward!
Alternatively, you can email me at info@SzeWingVetault.com to schedule the session.
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