It happens to everyone. More than we realized, the feeling of being stuck or jaded about a situation starts from a thought, but when we keep thinking about it, it gains momentum.
Eventually that thought becomes so stubborn and unwilling to leave our mind. The negative feeling or even hopelessness grows. But the good news is, that thought may seem loud and true in our mind, it may not be true in reality.
But the problem is when we are engaged in thinking, feeling and believing we are stuck in a situation, our minds are unable to come up with a solution. Our eyes can’t see the opportunities and our hears aren’t open to the lessons in store.
So what do we do?
Just pause and observe
Instead of deliberately thinking our thoughts, sometimes our thoughts just randomly appear. There are millions of reasons why we think or feel a certain way and everyone has different triggers based on our past experiences. Perhaps it maybe just a bad day or a bad moment. When a negative or unpleasant thought appears, we don’t always have to engage and act on it right the way. When it startles us, we can simply pause and observe. Detach and step back.
Next we ask ourselves, is it really our soul speaking to us, or most likely our ego self that tries to get our attention? Those thoughts that come under the brand wagon of “I am not good enough” or “It just won’t work for me” often come in the disguise of some kind of insight, but as a matter of fact, it is a moment when we are not truly being (or believe in) ourselves. If we can catch from that thought early and stop its momentum, it would be best. If not, here is my next strategy.
Distract yourself and reset your mindset
You may be able to list all the reasons why it is not working out for you or why you are stuck in a tricky situation. But once again, with that line of thinking, you are NOT going to be able to solve your problem. Just like what Albert Einstein famously said: “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
Consider the law of attraction, if you keep beating the drums of “I am not having enough money” or “All the eligible & good men/women are not available to me”, like attracts like, you will find all the reasons and evidence to show you why you think those thoughts. However, if you change your way of thinking and feeling by distracting yourself. For example, go for a nice walk, watch the sunset, read a book or even take a nap. In other words, raise your vibration, stop talking yourself further into the worries or fear. When you relax and feel better, you become less fixated on the problem itself, you may see a solution or change your mindset on it entirely.
Now once we are able to distract our mind or soothe our hearts, another great way to get unstuck is actually to check the facts without all the strong emotions that may cloud our judgement. Are we really looking at all the angles? Do we really know for sure? Where is our blind spot? What may actually help us with finding a way out?
More than sleep on it, pray on it
This may seem passive, but it is not. It is along the same line as distracting our minds but added another layer. When we sleep, it is like hitting a reset button, with good night sleep, we may think clearer and our days seem more hopeful in the morning. That’s a start. Also, there are times where things are completely out of our control or we just won’t be able to foresee what is beyond what we know. It’s ok to say to the universe, I don’t know, please guide me through it. Leave it to the universe to do it work. I always believe the universe is conspired to make us happy and fulfilled. It has our best interests at heart. Sometimes it is we who are not listening or actually getting in the way.
Don’t gamble, but invest
So what I mean by don’t gamble is taking unnecessary risks. For example, you don’t like your day job, instead of quitting your job on an impulse, feeling great for about 3 seconds after you send that email or hang up the phone. Ask yourself deeper questions, invest your time and energy to go deeper on the reasons why. If you feel unfulfilled, find out what will make you feel fulfilled first. If you feel under-appreciated, find out if it is your boss or the company culture. Obviously, you may have a totally different example at hand, but the strategy is the same, invest your time and energy for the next 2 steps ahead first before you pull the plug. It is more satisfying when you can really feel it is the right decision, then call on it big time.
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