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Today’s podcast and video feature Part II of my Honouring Your Divine Feminine Wisdom: Free Course. Follow from last week’s conversation on why Goddess Archetypes can deepen our understanding of our subconscious pattern, helps us with acceptance and awareness of our relationship dynamics, as well as women’s cycle of life, the four seasons. Part II of the conversation focuses on expanding what we know of ourselves and invites us to think about how can we live more strategically, to honour who we are, or where we are in life. How can we live more fully without pushing and forcing? Ultimately, it is a conversation about how to think, act and become like a goddess.
I shared 3 key concepts in this part II of the course – The Three “G”s:
G x 3 Mindset: God/Goddess – Let the Divine Take The Lead, Growth is better than Fixed, Grit is what we need for the long haul.
Good Habits: Start small, make them easy and consistent, take the thinking out of it. Over time, you will reap accumulated benefits and exponential growth.
Go with Your Cycle: Follow the moon cycle and/or your energy level, chart your woman’s cycle can be an eye-opening experience with your productivity and creativity. You will discover your ups and downs and therefore how to plan ahead and stay ahead!
You can access my FREE online quiz here to find out which Goddess Archetype is most active in you.
If you enjoy this two part Honouring Your Divine Feminine Free Course, you would love to come to join us on our upcoming Goddess Self-Care Day event in Sydney on the 24th July! It’s going to be a day of yoga, seminars, oracles, meditation, aromatherapy, delicious food and more!
You can find more event information and purchase your tickets here.
Hi, welcome to my show. This is Sze Wing Vetault. Today this podcast is a special edition and this is part two of my honour the Divine Feminine Wisdom: Free Course, and today it is part two. So you may watch this on YouTube or my Facebook page, or you may be listening to my podcast either way. Today it’s about following from our first conversation, which we cover goddess archetypes and women’s cycle of life. And today we’re going to talk about how are you going to apply this information to your life? How are you going to live more strategically and perhaps use this concept to improve your life no matter where you are, who you are and whichever life stage you’re in. So a little recap from last week. We talked about the goddess archetype, which I had talked about in my last book called Goddess with Many Faces and I featured six Greek goddesses.
They are: Athena Artemis, Demeter, Hera and Aphrodite. So I have a free quiz online, which you can do instantly. And you can find out who is most active in you, which is a really fun and easy way to get these information and learn about the archetype is most active in you right now, as you grow and evolve, they will change. So if you have done something like that few years ago. It may be different now. So I encourage you to check out that online quiz I have. So, or if you want to listen to the podcast the week before, for sure you can do that. But what is really about is that I talked about the archetype, which is like an inner pattern and blueprint who you are born with, or maybe perhaps circumstances when you were young, that triggered you and like lead you to become, or more influenced by.
Those are goddess archetypes. So many people talk about archetypes. It’s not about labelling, but it’s about identifying those patterns that really speaks to you. And I liked the goddess ones because I think they’re more complex and dynamic. I love the goddess myth. They really talked about the complexity of women and it really applies to our life. And no matter which myth, whichever culture or background and come from a lot of these myths, the themes are the same throughout history, throughout different culture. So I found them, you know, they are very interesting tales for caution, but also for us to understand who we are, what are we afraid of or what we what our strengths, what our dreams and where our hopes are. So I think the archetypes are really interesting way to start digging deeper into our subconscious and they are underlying patterns to a lot of our decisions and lots of our repetitive behaviour.
So if you’ve been dating the same type of guy or in the type of relationship on a work or personal level, these information can definitely help you to look at it slightly differently. And so once again, you can go to check out your most active one by doing an online quiz or read the book or listening to last week podcast, you get a little bit of introduction. So I talk about that. So we kind of have an idea about our blueprint, archetypes and so certain tendencies and certain strengths that each archetype brings. And then I talked about the women’s cycle of life as in the four season, spring, summer, autumn, and winter. And they are not you know, strictly related to our age. It can be a life stage where for instance, if someone just come off from a relationship that weren’t great for years, it felt like winter, but then once she left the relationship and maybe starting a new one, it felt like spring because spring is all about new possibility and growth.
So it really depends on the circumstance, not just about your age, when it comes to your cycle of life. And I love the way to look at it this way, because in our society so often we push ourselves to do as much as we can or, you know, go to achieve, make it happen. And that’s a lot of like the doer-ship in the summer, you know the summer is the time when harvest is, there’s a lots of activity going on. And sometimes we don’t give enough permission to rest or to recharge ourselves or more like spending time in the autumn or winter, which is less about activity, more about reflection and recharging rejuvenating, which is equally important. Each season has its place. So I think for women to look at it, it’s also helpful to give yourself permission and allow yourself to really go with the flow rather than go against the current where you are in your life.
So last episode is really about who you are, your blueprint, and then “when you are” sort of in those life stage. But once again, no matter who you are in terms of archetypes, it’s not something that you’re being labeled and pigeon-holed. It’s very much about now you know, your tendency and your strength, what are you going to use? What are you going to do about it? And that’s when today’s conversation is going to come in, because, you know, you may have done the quiz or you already know that you may be Athena, which is very headstrong, strategic very smart and perhaps really witty, but not necessarily very connected to your body , expressing your emotion as much as you would like. Because you staying in your head most of the time, then you’re aware of your strengths and your weakness, maybe not weakness, but tendencies or ways that you get triggered.
So today’s conversation was going to help you to take these concepts and look at it in how you can make kit something that would be able to help you to serve you and improve your life. Therefore. So I would try to make reference, but everybody is different. So that’s why I think it’s important to have the conversation about your archetype first. So we have an understanding of how you relate to people or what your inclinations are, and then today’s concepts we’re going to help you. So you say, oh, that’s interesting. That’s that will help me to become more of this, less of that, you know, things like that. So that’s why I think this conversation is going to reinforce of we talked about last week. So I hope you will find this interesting as well as useful. So let’s get into it.
So today I want to talk about three key things. One of the first thing I want to talk about, it’s about your mindset, and this is something I have been thinking, researching, writing and reading a lot myself. So I call it the three Gs. And as I grow older, the more I’m convinced that the way how these three Gs it’s going to be arranged. So for me, the mindset piece is really about No.1 God. So let the divine lead your way. And I’m not necessarily a very religious person. I certainly consider myself spiritual, but when I say the word, God, some people may feel, here we go again, maybe totally feel uncomfortable with it. But what I’m trying to say is that, you know be open-minded, you know, just hold on for a second, because a lot of times that when we refer to God or Goddess, it’s really about a power greater than ourselves with infinete intelligence, you can call it universe, you can call it the almighty, whatever that you feel comfortable with from your background or your belief system.
But for me, it’s something bigger than me. Like instead of “me”, the little “me”, the ego “me”, that is, “I” am, which is the greater part of myself that where I think, I believe every life is a miracle. How baby come into the world, it’s a miracle. And so all the body systems and health things works. It’s a miracle. How the world rotates, the earth rotate round in the universe, everything for me has miraculous force in it. Like how things playing out in a bigger picture to me sometimes it’s not really be like, out of my control, there is a power greater than all of us. And I think that’s a divine design and a divine plan about how things were and are, and certainly there’s a part of freewill about we choosing what to do and same with the archetypal piece where, you know, we have a pattern, but what are you gonna do about it?
It’s the second piece. So, but I do believe there is a divine plan. So when I say God, first in my mindset, I mean, let divine take the lead because in my life, the things that I’ve been pushing or trying so hard to achieve based on my “me” agenda, the little “me” often doesn’t work that well, or at all. So it feels like a needle. It just hardly make any movements sometimes when I’m just trying to make it happen with my sheer force. But there are certain times that when I step back and allow the big picture to unfold to let the divine take the lead (this is phrase I learn from Tosha Silver’s books) thing would just miraculously falling into place, the burden is off my shoulder. You know, I follow the lead and I still take actions, but it’s different when I’m not forcing the outcome.
So for me, that mindset is important. Like, you know, am I doing the things that I meant to do is it’s what God intended me to do and bring forth. If this is going to be useful, it’s going to bring more joy or love and usefulness to others. Then let me do it, use me as a channel. So, and when I have that mindset, rather than me wanting something to happen, things completely change. So, and I looked at all the good things happened in my life, all those moments, amazing stories and lucky things that happen. It always happened in that circumstance where I just not in the way, but I step aside and let the divine take the lead and show me which path this is. It’s the right one. And then I take the next step action. So for me, the mindset piece, number one is the G O D.
What is the best for all of us to do right now, perhaps the message you have is, you know, to be resilient or maybe to stay healthy and well, or be more aware about our environment and so forth. So there’s always a guidance, a direction for us, no matter what, when and where our blueprint help us to know where we were and what we’re given, but then what’s the next step is still up to us to experience and to learn. So for me, that mindset number one is the 3Gs it’s first is God. Then second is about growth mindset where I took this concept really from Dr. Carol Dweck her book mindset. And I strongly believe some people may have a more fixed mindset where they believe their ability or circumstances is in a fixed state where there’s not much you can do about it.
And therefore you were given, a certain talent or amuont the talent or level of capabilities. And that’s it. However, I do believe the growth mindset, actually, it’s a better one because given time, practice, attention, a lot of things can change. You may think you’re not good at maths, but are you sure really that maybe you didn’t have the right teacher. Maybe you didn’t pay enough attention. So some people tell themselves they’re not good at something, but it may not be necessarily true given the right time and practice and attention, a lot of things can change as well as when you change, the thing you look at change. So I definitely think having growth mindset change a lot of people and they can definitely improve their life to believe in that. So that’s in second piece, which is belief in a growth rather than a fixed mindset.
And then the third one it’s about grit I got this, this really resonated with me was from the writer, Angela Duckworth. And she talks about the passion and perseverance trumps talent. And, you know, it’s not enough to just be talented at something, but you still need to, or you really have a passion for something, but you still need perseverance, which is, in specifically in her book, she talks about deliberate practice, not just blindly, just keep on doing something and hope for a better outcome, but you have a deliberate practice to improve the outcome. So obviously that is quite driven by the goal or the outcome. But what I take from it is that the way I say it is that even though let’s say, you know, whatever that you, you feel like you’re doing on a path, whether it’s pursuing a new career or studying a news subject or whatever pursuit you have in life.
And you know deep down it was a divine plan for you. That was, you know, not necessarily you come up with this, but you really been thrown into this path or you’ll be encouraged to take this path and, you know, it’s the right path, but then not everything it’s rosy, just because it is divinely directed, sometimes you still have challenges to, to master something or to learn through those lessons and the challenges, you know, that time and time again, I referred to the hero journey, penned by Joseph Campbell and I follow his work for a long time when he talked about hero journey. That’s definitely a piece about the challenges, the tests, the trials, and that’s part of the journey, parts of transformation. But when that happens, that’s when the grit come in, because if you know, this is the right thing to do.
So then, you know, the perseverance it’s important. As long as you know, this is led by the divine. So it’s nothing passive. It’s just about purely aware of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. And so throughout this journey, there will be times that you need to really remind yourself with a growth mindset when the success hasn’t come yesterday and maybe not tomorrow, what kind of mindset you need to subscribe to in order to keep going. And also knowing perseverance is equally important. If that’s something you’d like to do ad worth for fighting for. So I think that mindset piece is important. Noot matter who you are and where on your life. But as I said, I do think number one it’s about is this, are you following God’s lead because if it is something your ego initiated, sometimes it’s not the right path.
And it does not much to go on. You will get that. You will know that if you go deep down and you ask yourself, then you would know if it is something more, an ego triggered piece, or is it really led by the divine? So that’s one thing I want to talk about the mindset piece. The second key is about the habits, because this is something maybe a lot of people will overlook and a lot of books do talk about habits. But the only thing is that people who are really keen on habits, they read the books. They implemented, they tend to have good habits because they really focus on it. But then the people who don’t really think about this much actually are the people who really needed those. So I really want to mention about habits because habit is something that when, once we built it, that’s something we don’t have to think so much about it.
Then naturally, you know, it’s something we tend to do. So when you take the decision making out of the thinking of it, then the chances that you would do those things rather than deciding on it. So you got into the automatic, you know, fall into the track of taking this action because that’s your habit. And when it’s a good habit, it will produce a positive result and everything accumulate over time. A small habit may create a very big benefit over time, whether it’s about deliberate practice of something, or even about strengthening the faith, or it’s about center yourself, whatever that is, over time, it really make a difference when you have a habit in place. So what I have found is that with habits, don’t make it too complicated, too hard, make it really simple and easy to do and start doing it straight away.
And when you have been doing something for a period of time, then it’s less hard to try to do, become something you just tend to do. And definitely go with the easy, what I call the lower hanging fruit first. So if one of the habit you want to achieve is a good morning routine, or eat the healthy breakfast or something, then make the smallest change first. So perhaps is, you know, stop buying unhealthy foods, storing healthy options in the kitchen cupboard. And then in the morning, you know exactly what you need to go to, or having a meal prep planned, whatever that is, but having certain small actions to help you to build a positive habit, that’s where you should start rather than deep dive into some more traumatic thing. That’s my advice because over time, the, these things accumulated. So that’s number one.
And what I found that really useful is that you start to think about in your life, what are the three bad habits or habits you want to change, and that improved those into better ones. So for myself, I had a habit in past, I mean, for example, I want to get up early. And one of the things that I found it hard in the morning is when I don’t go to bed early enough or didn’t have a good night’s sleep, then you look into that habit about why, part of it is because I like to take my devices into the bedroom. I may check my phone or iPad. And, you know, before, you know it, maybe half an hour before, you know, it, my mind is all fired up about things. So my habit becomes I’m going to change my charging station in the kitchen. So I removed those devices.
So they are actually situated in the kitchen. They’re not in the bedroom, I don’t take them into bedrooms. So I don’t look at them whenI go to bed. And then that habit become something that I practice over time. I don’t do that anymore. I don’t have the need to do that anymore. And then I have a better night of sleep. I go to bed earlier and then I can get up easier. So that’s mine, and I don’t know what is yours, but always find something that you don’t like. You want to change something you may consider as a negative habit. Think about how you’re going to make it into positive one, then making one or two small changes to start with. So for me, it was just removing the charging station. That’s pretty straightforward. I know some people, for example, they want to make sure they get a workout in the morning.
Then they put their gym clothes next to the bed or something. So make those things really easy and very simple to do. So then you can create a better habit. And why I want to mention habit as a followup conversation is because with archetypes, we talk about a lot of tendencies that may be, that we can become more aware of and therefore change them or avoid them. And so for instance, with the Demeter maybe your tendency is to look after everybody before herself. Maybe she experienced burnout or resentment, things like that. So now, if that’s the case, so what would be the habit to change? So you can avoid getting into that spiral of saying yes to everything. What could be the things that you can think instead
So that’s the piece about habit. The third thing I want to talk about today is about honouring our women’s cycles. So I talked about it quite a bit earlier this year, about how we can honour the moon cycle and align with that in terms of planning our work and personal life, as well as women’s cycles, menstrual cycle. So when I was pregnant and also nursing for my two children I obviously didn’t cycle then, but I followed the moon cycle. And I found that to the same effect that it was super useful for me. So we all know, not every day we have the same energy level and the thing is often we can’t expect the same output level
Productivity from ourselves. Very rarely, we think well, today it’s new moon or when you’re menstruating, you feeling more tired than usual, or you feel staying in resting, or that’s the days when you feel like maybe doing journaling, meditating more or be more cozy and stay warm, indoor and so forth. And so perhaps those are the days that we shouldn’t plan too much in advance because maybe we won’t be up for it. But so rarely we give ourselves that permission to think like that. Because as if Monday to Friday, we do certain things, weekend we do certain things and we expect a lot from ourselves all the time, as in pressing the gas rather than taking the break. As we strategically know certain time in a month, we may feel differently. So when that concept clicked in, I really plan my work and personal life with that in mind. So when I know my cycle is coming up or when it’s going to be new moon, that’s the time I love to journal, put my new thoughts, my intention together, or thinking what I have done last month, what I want to change and really going in, that’s my experience.
But once I incorporated that into my social life, so maybe I will, not having so many social dates or if I have announcement or news, I will trying to wait until later in the month, rather than during those days. So what I find is that not only it suits me, but my energy and my whole being, it’s embracing in a different level. So I’m much better in writing during those days. And I’m much better at broadcasting or recording videos or, you know, socialising, networking during full moon. So honouring that cycle actually really helped me with my productivity and creativity because, you know, that’s the thing. We look at it like Monday to Friday or nine to five or whatever hours you have. And we expect like, sort of, do as much as we can kind of thing rather than strategically placed it.
And to know, we need to honour certain days and maybe that’s not the best time. So you’ve asked someone say, Hey when do you want to catch up? When do you want to launch this? When do you want to do this? You can think about it that way. Maybe I should plan it near the full moon when my energy or the energy of most people are the highest so they can participate in the same way. I know in an old days in the village where women cycle at the same time like even when you go to girls camp, you find that because we do influence one another and you know, during full moon when our energy at the highest, that is really a time for releasing things that no longer serve us or really great time to connect with other women. It’s suitable for certain things.
So why don’t we take advantage of that? And then it also give us a permission to rest when we need to and do less over those days. So what you will find is that your productivity actually will sky rock. When you honour your cycle, or even if it’s not about your cycle, even it’s about your energy level that you notice is dipping. You don’t know what happens. It could be something else. It could be, due to a range of reasons, but, but honouring that by allowing yourself to do less a certain time, and don’t expect the same results or productivity all through the month, that really helped us to be nicer to ourselves. It’s part of the self-care ultimately, and it does not mean producing less. It does not mean less quality work, less productivity. But in fact, a lot of these things, I realised that myself and the people that I work with, is actually better that way.
So that’s something to think about as well as if you’re menstruating, it’s kind of corresponding to the moon the same way. So if you want to check this out, you can download my goddess planners, my free sample pages, which talk about this cycles. And then you can find it a better way to organise and plan your life. So when you know your archetype, when you know your tendency, that also helped you to think it through how you’re going to best utilise this information. So for your own archetype, what is the thing you really needed? What you need to plan into your month ahead so that you can be your best self, it’s about looking after yourself and tapping into your inner feminine wisdom. And that’s, that’s really the way I see for all of us to be more empowered, be more happy, joyous, and producing more quality work, bring more joy and light to others and in our own world.
So that’s the conversation I want to bring to you today about following up on the archetype and a woman’s cycle of life, knowing who are and where you are, and then thinking what are other things that we can look at to help us to improve where we are and what we want to be, or becoming the best possible version of ourselves. And in many ways, I call that becoming a goddess. When you are fully in charge of your own power, when you’re really in tune with your own psyche, your tendencies, your energy, when you are comfortable to look after yourself to really take good care of yourself. That’s when I think that’s a woman becoming a goddess.
So I hope you enjoy today’s podcast. Or if you’re watching this on Facebook or YouTube, there’s two short videos, and this is part of the two-part series of the free course,I have prepared for you, and I hope you find them useful. And I’ll talk to you again, next time.